Research among pregnant uncertain

Average: "Occasionally doubting yourself is quite normal. But people very often doubt whether they do well as a parent, then they are not so sure about their parenting. For example if they regularly ask themselves whether they fully appreciate the signs of their child and whether they consider themselves able to comfort. "Their baby

Research among pregnant uncertain

To measure feelings of uncertainty, the researcher had six hundred women at five times during pregnancy and fill during the first year after the birth of their child questionnaires. She also did an experiment with about 180 women. "We thought people can say they doubt whether or not, but whether that is true to reality, if the baby is born? I wanted to also measure which parent had spend the behavior of their child, "quickly from the card says Average.  https://plus.google.com/107702847333617161236/about

She left the pregnant two babies comfort, she heard crying. Using a computer The first baby was easy for everyone to comfort, it did eight times out of ten. The second baby turned out a lot harder, thereby managed only two out of ten times. Interim pregnant women should always indicate how well they thought they could comfort their babies. Daily life

48. Help, I'm having a baby. Pregnant and uncertain

Help, I'm having a baby. Pregnant and uncertain

Pregnant women never know for sure how they will be as a mother. Still, some women feel insecure about it than the other, is evident from the doctoral research Marie Average. "If you have less confidence, look through different eyes to reality."  https://plus.google.com/102034633390759433578/about

 Pregnant, pregnancy, uncertain

Confidence in yourself as a mother or father seems important for the way children develop. Thus it appears the children of parents who are certain of their parenting and to have to do at school. Better more social skills On the effect of the (un) certainty during pregnancy, little is known. Therefore Marije Average did the research. She was promoted yesterday at the Free University in Amsterdam. "Our idea was: if you can detect during pregnancy uncertainties and tackle, then you might thereby avoid difficulties in parenting."

Uncertain older

But how do you determine what an uncertain and that a certain parent. Every father or mother requires its ever wonder what is best for his or her child. Anyway, he gets a dessert or I'll give it until he has eaten? His plate Must I always am consistent?

 I give her punishment, or I'll have to keep patience?

Parent on the task "That pattern has never gone all over

Parent on the task "That pattern has never gone all over

This woman is married, there seems little room for their own married life because then mother too short. Even at work she goes too far with responsibilities: they must always be there for everyone. At the same time she throws herself on her own daughter as her mother did with her. Until it is completely empty. In her heart she can mother sometimes shoot, but they call three times a day and are "best friends". There is thus a very emotional denied. This is disastrous.  https://plus.google.com/107702847333617161236/about

 This woman needs to learn to let go. A process of years. "

What is the basic ingredient for a healthy mother-daughter relationship? "A healthy distance," says Skink. "The freedom to say yes and to say no. There is a clear division of roles is important: the mother remains the mother and daughter stays daughter. Even though the tasks shifted and the daughter cares for her ailing mother, she still remains the longing child waiting for a certain look. A motherly gesture. "

Period cramps 

Whether it is always necessary to lie long on the couch during your period, doubts Van Sauterne. "There are excellent analgesics, though. You call in sick because you have your period, I find a kind of weakness of women. The well-known letter to the gym teacher, I also think so bland. In menstruating pain can hear, there are pills for that. "

Menstrual pain and finding a partner

"You recognize so much of what you yourself have felt and experienced. Play with dolls, the uncertainty in the puberty, menstrual pain, finding a partner, have children, it is the recognition of womanhood. "

I do not like my mother

There is a fundamental difference. French psychoanalyst Chalk: "To be autonomous, a girl needs to detach from the mother, but to become a woman should they identify with her. It did not. "Boys he sees in his practice many women who struggle with their relationship with their mother.  https://plus.google.com/110558892067998073617/about

The origin of this lies in childhood, he explains. "Letting go is associated with anger:" stupid mom. As a mother there repeatedly uncomprehending deal with it and says, "but I'll do anything for you," then that girl can begin to feel her anger. "Guilty

Many women prefer not to look like Mom. "If they're too much like mother, it is as if they have no personality." Schick speaks of ambivalence toward mothers: they had both loved and hated. "Especially when women recognize themselves in properties from the hate part is that terrible. They then see the hated domination or coldness mirrored in him. "

Mollycoddle

Schick wrote the book "This is psychoanalysis." This psychological problem revolves around relationships between current problems and conflicts of the past. He gives the example of a woman who after the early death of her father has taken to always be there for her.

The relationship between mother and daughter

The relationship between mother and daughter

 "I do not like my mother"

All women are daughters and they all have one mother, one is luckier than others. Mothers come in all shapes and sizes: sweet and patient, hard and judgmental and everything in between. But the mother also affects the rest of your life you have to deal with her.

 Family, mother and daughter, mother, daughter

"Women who say they hate their mother and stubborn claim to have severed all contact call that is usually just a little too bright," explains Genevieve Leers, a mother and daughter and psychologist. Even though there is no contact, real disconnect never succeed.   https://plus.google.com/116953646749769476038/about

 "It is the most fundamental relationship you have. The first contact in your life. That loyalty to your mother country to live. Even children who really rotten at home, neglected and mistreated stay focused on their mother. "Usually goes well. Most mothers and daughters chatting and shopping a lot.

What have daughters and mothers need? "A listening ear is the key," said Leers. Your mother is still the first call when there is trouble. What do mothers of daughters need? "Well, I actually think that you can claim anything as a mother, but you're hoping of course love." There is a big difference with the mother son relationship. "Recognition" summarizes Leers together.

Mother plays important role in menstruation

Are menstruating

 Mother plays important role in menstruation

Periods are part of it for a girl. Mothers play an important role, knows gynecologist In eke van Sauterne (UMC Utrecht).

A mother has a great responsibility when it comes to how her daughter with her first menstruation handles. "There are mothers who are very open about that," is her experience. "But you are also no longer say," if you see blood, but you come to a clean underpants questions. That makes you a child not much wiser. "From Sauterne specializes in child and adolescent gynecology. 
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The first time

Girls who are too early, too late, or not at all heavy periods with her. Regularly report to young girls with complaints about secession. From Sauterne: "Mothers are often unaware that separation may be due to hormones and a harbinger of the first period. Sometimes, the doctor explains that not clear out. Then they come to me. It's nice to be able to explain it properly and thus reassure people. "

Mother must prepare

The gynecologist cannot emphasize enough how your daughter with her growing body handles, there is to a large extent how you take it as a mother. "You can calmly prepare her.

Note that they are starting to get, maybe soon also hairs on her fiddler breasts. It's still great fun to discuss that with you? DaughterGirls are therefore very much dependent on their environment. If the mother is clearly a lot of pain during menstruation, the daughter often takes those complaints. "